I found this gem on a website called She Is More.
It is fabulous advice that I wish more girls of all ages – not just teens, would know and follow.
Definitely share this post with your girlfriends!

21 Lost Lady Traditions That Still Apply Today

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Acting like a lady is carrying yourself with dignity, which also empowers a man to be a gentleman.

Many of us want a true gentleman, but I believe we hold the power to the way we are treated in our hands. It’s the law of attraction and common sense: If we want a gentleman, we must be and act like a lady.

In all areas of life, I believe being a lady displays self-respect, class, appreciation and etiquette. It also allows you to enjoy the niceties of life with the ease of knowing how to act in all situations. You don’t have to come from wealth or be wealthy in order to conduct yourself like royalty.

After doing some new research and also recalling my southern roots which included cotillion and etiquette classes, here are 21 lost lady like traditions that still apply today:

Manners:

1. If a man knows that it is etiquette to remain standing until you are seated, be sure to sit promptly as to not leave him standing too long.

2. No rude or shocking language, especially at the table. Your language is a representation of your mind and heart.

3. Don’t talk with your mouth full. I don’t need to explain this one.

4. She dresses tastefully: A lady dresses appropriately for the occasion.

5. Phone calls: When in doubt, a good rule of thumb is not to make phone calls before 9 am or after 9 pm.

6. She is gracious: She never just says, “hello” when being introduced to someone. She offers a kind greeting like, “it’s a pleasure to meet you” or “how are you this evening?”

7. She turns her phone on silent and puts it away for meals, meetings and church.

8. She says, “yes, please” or “no, thank you.” She does not say, “yep” or “nope.”

9. She gives compliments with sincerity and only when she means it. She does not say things just to say them. Insincerity is easier to read than we think.

10. A lady offers to help someone in need. Being a lady starts with how you treat yourself and others. She offers her seat to the elderly, disabled or a parent with small children.

11. She RSVPs promptly, reads an invitation thoroughly and does not ask for exceptions. She always promptly sends a detailed thank you note to anyone who has shown her hospitality.

12. She never arrives empty handed. Bringing a small hostess gift shows your appreciation for the preparation your host has done.

13. Her word is her bond. A lady warrants a respectable reputation purely by the consistency of her word. She always keeps her promises.

The Dating Lady:

14. Don’t call him, he’ll call you. A lady knows that she deserves to be pursued and does not do it or him. If you are in the position that you have to initiate contact in order to communicate, then you should know that you are not dealing with a gentleman and can move on.

15. Time frame: no one gets to call you on a whim to hang out. Your time is precious and valuable and you are clearly booked days in advance. Someone who honors your time will plan ahead and ask to take you out with at least a 48 hour request.

16. You don’t meet a guy anywhere. He comes and picks you up, especially on the first date. It can be inconvenient, but is it your job to make dating you convenient? No. The last thing you want to be is convenient. However if  you are meeting someone in person for the first time, meeting in a neutral location is a smart, safe move. Always honor your intuition.

17. Curfew: Mama always said nothing good happens past 10 o’ clock and she’s pretty much right. So set the time you need to be home in advance and let your gentleman know about it ahead of time.

18. Appreciation: Being a lady and acting lady-like does not mean that you are entitled or snobby. Practice having a heart of gratitude and always say thank you for specific actions or generosities.

19. How to order: Have respect for your gentleman and do not behave with entitlement by ordering the most expensive thing on the menu. If he wants to treat you to a fine bottle of wine, he can order it or offer for you to make a selection.

20. Be a good listener and conversationalist. Put your phone away and be present. A lady is not boring, rude or dismissive.

21. Be prepared. If you are going out with a gentleman, he will cover your date. However, you should always be prepared to pay if the date does not go well or he forgets his wallet. The gentleman version of this article on GoodGuySwag.com says,

“An English gentleman never split the meal with his date. The English used the term “go dutch” in “derisive application,” as they stereotyped the Dutch as being cheap, or “stingy.” Today, the gentleman always picks up the tab, especially on the first date, and with no expectations.”

30 Characteristics of a Modern Lady explains that ultimately etiquette is the natural byproduct that flows through a lady’s character. These traditions are mostly common- sense that simply allow you and others to enjoy life more.

If this article intrigued you, please share to inspire others.

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A reader just commented with another important point:

22. Sit like a lady. When sitting, your legs if not together, should not be so far apart that others can see  your nether regions. You cannot expect to be treated with respect by others  if you are treating yourself disrespectfully.

I wrote an article about facial masks in the latest issue of Luca Magazine. Face masks are the greatest addition to any skin care regimen. You can use masks to treat any skin concerns you have. Today on the blog instead of looking at masks you can buy in the store, lets look at DIY masks, all natural masks that you can make at home!

How To Make Home Made Face Masks

Did you know that you already have most of the ingredients you need to make the very best skin care masks, sitting in your kitchen? High performance, beautiful skin care products don’t always have to come in a bottle or a tube on a shelf in a store. You can make them yourself with all natural ingredients, many of which are already sitting on your kitchen counter or in your pantry! Before using any mask all over your face, do a little test patch at the corner of your jawline. If your skin feels any adverse reaction, remove the mask immediately.

Here are some fabulous DIY skin care facial masks.

Exfoliating Mask

 

If you have been following my Corinna B’s World blog for more than 5 minutes then you will already know that I am not a fan of facial scrubs. I always think they scratch away the debris on the surface of the skin, but also scratch the baby skin underneath, keeping you in a perpetual cycle of rough, gritty skin.

I prefer to use enzyme masks to exfoliate my skin. An enzyme mask uses fruit acids or lactic acids to dissolve away dead skin cells and debris from the surface of the skin, without damaging the fresh skin underneath. They are super gentle and leave your skin feeling soft and smooth. Here is an easy to make DIY enzyme mask:

Papaya Enzyme Mask

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image by Brad Olson for Luca Magazine

Slice a papaya in half, lengthways. Take one half of the papaya, scoop out the seeds and discard, then scoop the flesh of the papaya into a glass or ceramic bowl. Mash the papaya, apply it all over the face, avoiding the eye area.

Leave the mask on the skin for 15 minutes, then rinse off with luke-warm water and a washcloth.

Brightening Mask

If your complexion is looking dull and lifeless a DIY brightening mask could be the answer.

Apricot Brightening Mask

Apricots are rich with vitamins A, B1, B2, C and PP (a bacterial astringent). They also contain many important minerals such as iron, calcium, manganese, sulfur, potassium, magnesium and phosphorous). An apricot brightening mask is fabulous for normal to dry skins, and can be used once or twice per week.

Peel and halve 2 ripe apricots. In a ceramic or glass bowl mash apricots with a fork (use a food processor). Apply with a brush, avoiding the eye area. and leave on the skin for 30 minutes. Rinse off with luke warm water and a washcloth.

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Brightening Mask For Oily Skin.

If you have an oily or combination skin a lemon Mask is a fabulous way to brighten your skin.

Lemon Mask

Lemons have vitamin A, C, B1, B2 and B3 (a strong astringent and bactericide). Lemons are great for oily complexions. You can use this mask daily if necessary, or just a couple of times per week.

Add 1 teaspoon of fresh lemon juice to 1 stiffly beaten egg white. Apply to the face, avoiding the eye area. Leave on the skin for 10 minutes and then rinse off with bottled water.

Strawberry Mask

Strawberries contain vitamins B, C, E and K as well as salicylic acid and silica. Its astringent and revitalizing properties make this mask good for all skin types, and it can be used twice per week.

Apply 2 tablespoons of mashed strawberries directly to the face, avoiding the eye area. Rinse off with bottled water.

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For Dry or Dehydrated Skin

When your skin needs some luscious nourishment just reach for an avocado.

Avocados are rich in vitamins and amino acids and make fabulous anti-aging masks for dry, combination and mature skin.

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image by Brad Olson for Luca Magazine

Avocado Mask

Mash half a ripe avocado with a fork, (or put in a food processor) and apply immediately to the skin, avoiding the eye area. Leave on for 30 minutes and then rinse off with bottled water.

For Angry Skin

If your skin is feeling angry or irritated one of the best masks you can make to soothe and smooth your skin is an oatmeal mask. Oatmeal contains anti-oxidants and anti-inflammatories, which will reduce irritation and soothe itchy or irritated skin.

Oatmeal Mask

There are several variations on this mask.

Mask One: Add 2 tablespoons of honey to one serving of hot oatmeal. Let it cool to a warm temperature (never hot), and apply to the face, avoiding the eye area. Leave on for 15 minutes and then rinse off with cool water.

Mask Two: Grind 4 tablespoons of oatmeal in a coffee grinder or food processor. In a ceramic or glass bowl add 1 tablespoon of honey and one egg yolk. Mix together and apply to the face, avoiding the eye area. Leave on for 15 minutes, and the rinse with cool water.

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Cucumber Mask

Anytime your skin has had too much sun, too much wind, or just needs soothing, grate one cucumber that has been refrigerated cold. Apply to the skin and leave for as long as you want! The cold cucumber hydrates, soothes and refreshes the skin. (Note – it gets super messy, but its worth it!)

I hope you will try out some of these masks at home! Leave me a comment in the comment section below if you do! Also, if you have some favorite homemade masks that you would like to share, please tell us about them in the comment section below.

xo

Things Every Girl Should Know

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It doesn’t matter if you are 21 or 81, you need to know these 30 girl rules. Teach them to your daughters, live them yourself, practice them until they become habit. Never doubt yourself, not for even one minute.

Make sure every teenage girl in your life knows these 30 incredibly important things. Share this post with them, share this post on your social media, and share this post with yourself.

So here they are in no specific order:

30 Important Things Every Girl Should Know

  1. Don’t knock it ’til you try it.
  2. It’s OK to cry when you’re hurt. It’s also OK to smash things. But wash your face, clean up your mess, and get up off the floor when you’re done. You don’t belong down there.
  3. Seek out the people and places that resonate with your soul.
  4. The 5 second rule. It’s just dirt. There are far worse things in a cheeseburger.
  5.  Be less sugar , more spice, and only as nice as you are able to be without compromising yourself.
  6.  Can’t is a cop out. Don’t want to is perfectly acceptable.
  7.  Travel light through life. Keep only what you need.
  8.  If you are going to curse, be clever. If you are going to curse in public, know your audience.
  9.  Happiness is not a permanent state. Wholeness is.
  10.  Hold your heroes to a high standard. Be your own hero.
  11.  It is never, ever OK to be mean. Hold yourself to a higher standard.
  12.  If you can’t smile with your eyes, don’t smile. Insincerity is nothing to aspire to.
  13.  Never lie to yourself.
  14.  Send Thank You cards for every act of hospitality – except another Thank You card.
  15.  Study your curiosities and practice your passions.
  16.  Wish on stars and dandelions, then get to work.
  17.  Fall in love often. Particularly with ideas, art, music, literature, food, and far off places.
  18.  Say Please, Thank You, and Pardon Me, whenever the situation warrants it.
  19.  Reserve I’m Sorry for when you truly are.
  20.  Design the life you want to live. Set goals, don’t lose your focus.
  21.  Don’t skimp on good sheets.
  22.  Question everything except your own intuition.
  23.  Your body, your rules.
  24.  Be responsible for your own money. Learn how to balance your bank account, invest wisely, avoid credit card debt.
  25.  Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.
  26.  If you have an opinion, you better know why.
  27.  You have enough. You are enough.
  28.  Ask for what you want.
  29.  Never stop believing in yourself.
  30.  You are amazing! Don’t let anyone ever make you feel you are not. If someone does … walk away. You deserve better.

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